We managed to celebrate Pollito's anniversay without incident and everyone participated. I made a giant cookie and asked Pollito what he wanted it to say. He thought about it for a moment and said "Love the Family." So that is what we wrote on it.
Both Corazon and Tortuga will have anniversaries in the next few weeks. I have no doubt we are in for some rough times but right now we are holding steady and taking it one day at a time.
Corazon has made tremendous progress over the past few years but there are lingering behaviors that just won't leave! She continues to have pretty good days coupled with really bad days. On those days nothing works. There is a pattern that is emerging though.Her worst days are the days she doesn't have gymnastics and Mondays. With her advancing to the next level in gymnastics she is now going to the gym 5 days each week--yay! She LOVES it. All the girls come out after a 3 1/2 hour workout looking beat. She bounces out with the biggest smile on her face! It's wonderful to see how much she really enjoys this. On the other hand, schoolwork isn't getting done and when it is done it is dones slowly (4 hours to do a writing prompt) or incorrectly (she forgot how to round numbers to nearest tens and hundreds places). I just smile and say "great job" to which she gives me the most incredulous looks.
Tortuga has made tremendous progress and we had our best holiday season yet. It is still exhausting and I have to make so much effort for some small (albeit important) changes. Yet I can see the healing and the calmer kid and for that I am ever so grateful. He dominates tremendous amounts of our time and energy and the other kids are feeling neglected. Rightly so. We are still struggling with his complete and utter disdain(vehement and violent) for Corazon. It causes him to miss out on many family activities which he resents and blames her for. We continue to explain that everyone in our family is entitled to feel safe and he does not do things to make it comfortable or safe for her when he sits at the table and glares at her for no reason at all. He sits in his room and talks about how awful she is but so far all we get out of him is that she "looks" at him and that she "steals" (only once ever from him and it was half a bag of candy he had lost the privilege of eating.) It's sad, especially because she continues to work to help him every chance she gets.