Saturday, December 19, 2009

It goes on...

Friday was C's first day back and it was one for the record books. We had a crew here to tear down about 50% of our amazing 100 year old oak tree. So sad but it was the tree or the house. We have been assured that it will survive and grow in quickly but it was hard to see it go. The good news is we will have firewood for a very long time to come. Milagro had her 2 year old check-up and got 4 shots. She had lots to tell me about the experience since I didn't take her. She is such a sweet child. Apparently she endeared herself to all the nurses because she asked for 4 stickers. ("One for each shot?" the nurse asked? She said "no. 1 for my sister, 1 for my big brover, 1 for my little brover and one for me!")

The older kids are still wrapping up December assignments (they are both a bit behind so will likely "do school" into early next week.) While I think vacations are good for them, right now I also think that it gives Tortuga much needed structure plus he actually enjoys it so he may only get a couple of days off. I took advantage of C. being back to take care of projects I cannot do while supervising all 4 kids so I spent the bulk of the day making our Christmas fudge. The kids will help me later in the weekend with packaging and labelling and delivering.

While most of our Christmas shopping is finished we had a few items (from Santa for the family) to pick up at a sporting goods store. The nearest one is off the same road as Corazon's gym so we decided to all go after dropping her off for her last practice before vacation. It was a big deal because she was also finding out if she was moving up a level in gymnastics. We already knew but the girls were being told as a group because of the 10 girls on her level only 3 were ready to move up and she was one of them. We are very proud of her and her accomplishments in gymnastics this year but we are even more excited because the coaches for her new level are AMAZING. One used to train the Chinese national team and she takes no prisoners! Corazon will work hard with 3 1/2 hours of practice 4 days/week and her new coach will keep her on track which is what she thrives on. Gymnastics has really been a significant part of her healing and in all areas she's come so far in this past year!
While Corazon was at the gym we we ran our errand then went to dinner. Tortuga was doing very well and was quite relaxed and happy. We picked Corazon up then went driving around the area to look at Christmas lights. We saw some wonderful decorations and the kids were having a great time. Then it started. Tortuga began muttering under his breath. Every time Pollito or Corazon commented on something they saw we heard him. I tried ignoring it for as long as possible but that usually just makes it worse. He escalated until C. & I realized we needed to head home. The younger kids were in a great mood but Tortuga was over the top and wanted to make sure everyone knew it. He wasn't interested in anything except making sure everyone was miserable. That led to an incredible rage unlike we have seen in almost a year. Nothing that usually regulates him worked to help him. After 2 hours he seemed to be calming/slowing down and I make the critical mistake of going to deal with the other kids while C. stayed with him. It was only about 3 minutes but enough time for him to bolt. It was after 9 p.m. and he ran out the door. C. went after him and was gone for over an hour. I was so mad at him because I knew part of what was going on is that he wanted to keep the attention on himself and my going to check on the other 3 was what led to this running. When they returned I had the other 3 propped in front of the tv watching a christmas movie eating reindeer cupcakes. If looks could have killed...we would not be here. C. led him upstairs to his room. Reminded him of the consequences of destroying things (I had already run up there and removed anything removable as a part of a premptive strike.) He screamed and yelled for about 40 minutes but eventually calmed down.

Great start to the weekend!

9 comments:

SocialWrkr24/7 said...

Sorry to hear that Tortuga is having a hard time, glad to hear he was returned safely.

Those pics of Corazon are amazing - she looks like such a professional!

Merry Christmas!!

Mama Drama Times Two said...

PHEW. That sounds exhausting!!! It is so frustrating when they hit the point of no return and you all get dragged along for the ride. Corazon has worked so hard! Tell her congratulations!!! Happy Holidays....

Mom 4 Kids said...

Those pictures are WOW!

It is nice to hear someone else was hanging in there while we were hanging in here on the tantrum front! Keep hanging in!

Lisa said...

He just had to create some drama didn't he? Glad everthing turned out ok. Christmas crazies....they're always good for entertainment. Ha.

Corazon looks amazing in those photos. Please tell her I'm so proud of her.

Lee said...

Oh gosh, exhausting and so scary. I am glad he is OK and hoping that maybe that discharge of emotion will help him to get thru the rest of the holidays without any major.

Tell Corazon we are proud of her too. I LOVE the pictures! Maybe some day we'll watch her on the Olympics. :-)

J. said...

glad that you are such brillant Mamas that you can it all turned out okay and yipee for C.

Dia por Dia said...

Thank y'all for the comments. Corazon has worked hard and is a good gymnast but really the gymnastics have given her an outlet for her need to control things (especially her body and it's errr...functions) so we noticed early on that physical activity focused on "control" (skating, tumbling, dance, martial arts) really cut down on some of those other issues. Now she loves gymnastics and it has given her tremendous self confidence and discipline!

Linda B said...

That is so cool that gymnastics works for T., it is a "normal" activity and she gets lots of positives from it...plus the added bonus of it's what SHE needs. Wouldn't it be fun to experience a family event go smoothly just once?

BT said...

I can't get over Corazon's pictures. Such power and grace all in one. I am in awe. Soooo glad you found this outlet for her.

Sorry about Tortuga. We are well acquainted with the running away, so I know it is not fun, and all the feelings you feel as you dissect it. Hopefully he's got out of his system whatever was starting to build up.

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