Tortuga is having the same ups and downs. His are less extreme than they have been in the past but still present and unpredictable. I continue to be the target of his disrespect, anger, and violence. It angers him that he can't get a rise out of me no matter what he tries. School has been bad too. The teachers have him on a "behavior contract" for his constant impulse control issues, talking out, interrupting, wandering about the classroom and bugging people. In the past month he has averaged 1 or 2 good/ok days each week which basically means he engaged in these behaviors only 10-12 times each day! For being a "zero tolerance" school system in so many ways this just seems like way too many chances. I tried to get them to limit this more but they don't get it. In the meantime, we are hearing more about his aggression towards girls especially the smaller ones. He is definitely a bully at school. We have one more thing creeping up and that is he is working up to "running away." This weekend he made it out the door and down the street right before dark. It was over something somewhat minor (bad manners at the table) that he escalated by giving me "the finger" with both hands and then laughing when he thought I didn't notice. I thanked him for showing me how he felt at the moment without using words since we are working on him not talking while I am giving him directions. He bolted. Earned him early bedtime, alternate dinner (oatmeal this time) instead of one of his favorites. Also, he has announced that he thinks he will get"better" if I homeschool him. He is right. The important question is can I survive homeschooling the two of them?
Pollito is the one weighing on my mind these days but that is another post. I may need those moms with 4-6 year olds (RAD and not) to chime in as I formulate a plan for helping him.
As for Milagro. She is cute as ever and a constant reminder to me of what my other kids missed out on and what healthy attachment looks like. We are in the thick of a "language explosion" around here since this past week with this independent little 20 month old. Her newest trick is putting together longer phrases and sentences (yes, full sentences!) Her current favorites are:
"Mine! Mine! Mine. ... Thank You!"
"Where's Mami? Where's Mom?"
"Agua fell down."
"I need my shoes."
"Birding fy down."
"Get my book."
"Yaya (Corazon) no go skoooooool!"
"Come down mami!"
You're probably not as excited as I am but given all the speech/language issues around here these past few years (and still), I am totally impressed.